Afraid of failure

Next up on The real reason you can't lose weight - you are afraid to fail!

(Again these are my opinions and how it has realted to MY weight loss journey)

Reading this part of the article the only thought that crossed my mind was "people aren't afraid to fail, but it's a hell of a good excuse and the easy way out!"

Harsh - YES - but so true!

I was afraid of so many things going into this journey of mine, but I knew that I had to push through all that if I wanted to be successful. My number one objective this time around is that I was afraid of regret. I no longer wanted to continuing regretting the time I wasted in my life. I wanted to turn things around and I think this single handly pushes me every single morning when I wake up. I have lived with regret for a long time and no longer what to do it.

When I decided that I would lose weight once and for all I had alot of reasons that I was afraid to fail, these are just some of them:

1. I was afraid that my relationship with my husband would change
2. I was afraid that I would lose my friends
3. I was afraid to give up the foods that provided me comfort and filled a void
4. I was afraid of change and how my family would adapt to it
5. I was afraid that I would gain weight
6. I was afraid that I would not have the support I needed
7. I was afraid that I would resent people who could eat anything they wanted and still be skinny

8. I was afraid of making myself a priority

again all excuses.

I can tell you right here right now TODAY while I'm still fighting to cross that finish line of weight loss, the above fears hold no truth.

1. my relationship with my husband has never been better, we laugh more, we smile more we enjoy life, do you know why? because half of the equation is no long MISERABLE, the half that was bringing the realtionship down now has self confidence and that makes a world of difference!

2. this did a complete 180! I did not lose one single friend, IN FACT my friends have found their own motivation and have fought through their own fears and are losing weight and changing their own lives!

3. missing the foods and afraid my void wouldn't be filled - complete and utter BS!! I would take happiness and health over a bag of chips any day!

4. Change has made a HUGE inpact on my family, infact my 6 year old son is doing the mother's day run with me this year and so is my husband and the grandma's! how's that for my family embracing change!

5. afraid of gaining weight - well this still lays heavily on my mind, but I try really hard to not let it get to me. I am confident that the road I travelled and the lessons I have learned will not lead me back to the place or the person I once was!

6. I have an incredible support system, it's as close as an email, a phone call, a quick coffee or a blog post away. I thank each an everyone of you that come here every day to support me, it makes a world of difference, I don't even know why this was a fear of mine!

7. I don't resent people who eat crap and fill their bodies with empty useless calories. WOW! The old saying "she can eat anything and still be so thin" brings a new meaning to me. Because I know that the fit person who is eating a chip here or a bowl of ice cream there, has either already worked it off or will later on in the day. Everything in moderation!

8. Afraid of making myself a priority! Wow has this ever changed. I am a very selfish person now. I need to be. I put my needs ahead not of everything or anyone is in this household but equal to. I am no longer on the bottom of the list because me being happy makes everyone happy. My husband benefits from it, my kids benefit from it and most importantly I benefit from it!

I think the important lesson to be learned from all of this is it's ok to be afraid, it's ok to feel like we have made mistakes, it's ok to question ourselves..the important thing is to NEVER GIVE UP! Wake up each morning and say "today is a new day, what am I going to do to make it a good one".